Monday, 1 February 2016


Spirituality and Mental Health





How has spirituality helped you get through your “dark night”? 



“Many times the Christ has come to the world, and He has walked many lands. And always He has been deemed a stranger and a madman.”
                                                                                                                                  -Gibran


“O God, thou created us in thy image and our hearts will be restless until they find their rest in Thee.”
- St. Augustine



Buddha was asked ‘What have you gained from meditation? He replied, “Nothing!” However, Buddha said, let me tell you what I lost: Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Insecurity, Fear of Old, Age and Death.”



“Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When "I" is replaced by "We", illness becomes wellness.”
-S. Alder


“O my servants! Sorrow not if, in these days and on this earthly plane, things contrary to your wishes have been ordained and manifested by God, for days of blissful joy, of heavenly delight, are assuredly in store for you. Worlds, holy and spiritually glorious, will be unveiled to your eyes. You are destined by Him, in this world and hereafter, to partake of their benefits, to share in their joys, and to obtain a portion of their sustaining grace. To each and every one of them you will no doubt attain.” 
-Bahá’u’lláh


“O MOVING FORM OF DUST!
I desire communion with thee, but thou wouldst put no trust in Me. The sword of thy rebellion hath felled the tree of thy hope. At all times I am near unto thee, but thou art ever far from Me. Imperishable glory I have chosen for thee, yet boundless shame thou hast chosen for thyself. While there is yet time, return, and lose not thy chance.”
-Baha’u’llah




“About a third of my cases are suffering from no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives. This can be defined as the general neurosis of our times.”
-Jung


“When our thoughts are filled with the bitterness of this world, let us turn our eyes to the
sweetness of God’s compassion and He will send us heavenly calm! If we are imprisoned in the
material world, our spirit can soar into the heavens and we shall be free indeed! When our days are drawing to a close let us think of the eternal worlds, and we shall be full of joy!”
-Abdu’l-Baha

“The normal person wears masks in order to function in society, to maintain self-identity in a world that corrodes the self and redefines it for its collective purpose. To act without a mask, to think and speak and behave without this veil of illusion is an act of madness. To lose these masks, to be true to self and therefore true to nature and reality, is to be free. This freedom, taken against society, has its risk of loneliness and misunderstanding, but it safeguards intuition and self from the intolerant masses and their expectation of conformity, of mask-wearing.”
- unknown


"Dark emotions don't go away. They simply come to us in whatever form we can bear. When we master the art of staying fully awake in their presence, they move us through suffering. We discover that the darkness has its own light."
– M. Greenspan


"Joy gives us wings! In times of joy our strength is more vital, our intellect keener, and our understanding less clouded. We seem better able to cope with the world and to find our sphere of usefulness. But when sadness visits us we become weak, our strength leaves us, our comprehension is dim and our intelligence veiled. The actualities of life seem to elude our grasp, the eyes of our spirits fail to discover the sacred mysteries, and we become even as dead beings. There is no human being untouched by these two influences; but all the sorrow and the grief that exist come from the world of matter—the spiritual world bestows only the joy!"
- ‘Abdu’l-Bahá





“The spirit is permanent and steadfast in its station'. The veil or hindrance that interposes between soul and body during physical disease is sickness itself. Sickness reveals a lack of balance in human organism, an absence of equilibrium in the forces essential for the normal functioning of the human body."
-S. Effendi




“You ask me how I became a madman. It happened thus: One day, long before many gods were born, I woke from a deep sleep and found all my masks were stolen -- the seven masks I have fashioned and worn in seven lives. I ran maskless through the crowded streets shouting, "Thieves, thieves, the cursed thieves." Men and women laughed at me and some ran to their houses in fear of me. And when I reached the market place, a youth standing on a house-top cried, "He is a madman." I looked up to behold him; the sun kissed my own naked face for the first time. For the first time the sun kissed my own naked face and my soul was inflamed with love for the sun, and I wanted my masks no more. And as if in a trance I cried, "Blessed, blessed are the thieves who stole my masks." Thus I became a madman. And I have found both freedom and safety in my madness; the freedom of loneliness and the safety from being understood, for those who understand us enslave something in us. But let me not be too proud of my safety. Even a Thief in a jail is safe from another thief. “
-Gibran


“Thy name is my healing, O my God, and remembrance of Thee is my remedy.  Nearness to Thee is my hope, and love for Thee is my companion.  Thy mercy to me is my healing and my succor in both this world and the world to come.  Thou, verily, art the All-Bountiful, the All-Knowing, the All-Wise.”
-Baha’u’llah


"What does it mean to be crazy? To have a disorder of the mind. But "disorder" can only exist if there is some kind of pre determined "order" set in place. And who decides on order relative to the human mind? Human society. Sane and insane is a judgment based on perspective. So there is no reason to think of yourself as insane; if the very mindset of the society that determines whether you are sane or insane is in and of itself insane!”
– T. Swan


“O Lord! Thou art the Remover of every anguish and the Dispeller of every affliction. Thou art He Who banisheth every sorrow and setteth free every slave, the Redeemer of every soul. O Lord! Grant deliverance through Thy mercy, and reckon me among such servants of Thine as have gained salvation.”
The Bab


“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.”
– Albert Camus


“Anxiety in the heart of a man weighs it down, But a good word makes it glad.”


“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

“There is more to life than increasing its speed.” 
-Gandhi



The spirit may be likened to the light within the lantern. The body is simply the outer lantern. If the lantern should break, the light is ever the same because the light could shine even without the lantern. The spirit can conduct its affairs without the body…. The human soul by means of this body can perform its operations, and without the body it can, likewise, have its control. Therefore, if the body be subject to disintegration, the spirit is not affected by these changes or transformations.”



“When your life is filled with the desire to see the holiness in everyday life, something magical happens: ordinary life becomes extraordinary, and the very process of life begins to nourish your soul!” 
-Rabbi Kushner


“Spiritual opening is not a withdrawal to some imagined realm or safe cave.  It is not a pulling away, but a touching of all the experience of life with wisdom and with a heart of kindness, without any separation.” 
-Jack Kornfield


“When the material world and the divine world are well co-related, when the hearts become heavenly and the aspirations grow pure and divine, perfect connection shall take place. Then shall this power produce a perfect manifestation. Physical and spiritual diseases will then receive absolute healing.”    
-Abdu’l-Baha


“The heart is like a garden.  It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love.  What seeds will you plant there?” 
-Buddha



'You must always remember, no matter how much you and others are afflicted with mental troubles that your spirit is healthy, near to your Beloved, and will in the next world enjoy a happy and normal state of soul.”
-Bahai Writings



“Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.”
-H. Hesse


"Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need."
-Matthew 5:3.


“The waters closed in over me to take my life; the deep surrounded me; weeds were wrapped about my head at the roots of the mountains. I went down to the land whose bars closed upon me forever; yet you brought up my life from the pit, O Lord my God. When my life was fainting away, I remembered the Lord, and my prayer came to you, into your holy temple.”
-Jonah 2:5-7


“Know thou that the soul of man is exalted above, and is independent of all infirmities of body or mind.
That a sick person showeth signs of weakness is due to the hindrances that interpose themselves between his soul and his body, for the soul itself remaineth unaffected by any bodily ailments.”
-Bahá’u’lláh


“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
-Galatians 5:22-23


“Time, in the words of Albert Einstein, is "an illusion of consciousness." Shallow thinking literally speeds up our experience of time, while deep and peaceful thinking slows it down. We inhabit time more effectively when our mind and heart are clear.  Such a world view is like a mental filter, leading us to experience the world through a lens of love instead of fear. Fear is the thinking that dominates the world, but love is who we really are. Grounding ourselves each day in a deep remembrance of who we really are, we actualize the spiritual power that lies latent within all of us. We were created to love, and in loving we are fulfilling the purpose of our lives. With every thought we think, we either extend love or project fear into the world. Taking a few simple principles and applying them to our daily lives lifts us above the turmoil of the world.”
-M. Williamson

O My servant! Thou art even as a finely tempered sword concealed in the darkness of its sheath and its value hidden from the artificer’s knowledge. Wherefore come forth from the sheath of self and desire that thy worth may be made resplendent and manifest unto all the world.
-Bahá’u’lláh
– Rumi


“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life,
your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your heart,
even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief. 
Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips,
has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.”
- Gibran

“Oh soul,
you worry too much.
You have seen your own strength.
You have seen your own beauty.
You have seen your golden wings. 
Of anything less,
why do you worry?
You are in truth
the soul, of the soul.”
Rumi



“It takes courage…to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.”
― M. Williamson




“Consider... the sun when it is completely hidden behind the clouds. Though the earth is still illumined with its light, yet the measure of light which it receiveth is considerably reduced. Not until the clouds have dispersed, can the sun shine again in the plenitude of its glory. Neither the presence of the cloud nor its absence can, in any way, affect the inherent splendor of the sun. The soul of man is the sun by which his body is illumined, and from which it draweth its sustenance, and should be so regarded.”
-Bahá’u’lláh


“Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.”
-Rumi




“Once a professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see and asked the students, “how much do you think this glass weighs? ’50gms!’?…’100gms…’125gms’….  The students answered, “I really don’t know unless I weigh it.”  The professor said, ‘now, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?’ ‘Nothing’ the students said.  “OK what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?” the professor asked.  “Your arm would begin to ache” said one of the students.  “You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”  “Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis; have to go to hospital for sure! Ventured another student”, all the students laughed.  “Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” Asked the professor.  “No” was the reply of all the students.  “Then what caused the arm to ache; the muscle to stress?” After a pause the professor asked “Before my arm ache, what should I do?” The students were puzzled.  “Put the glass down!” said one of the students.  “Exactly!” said the professor, “Life’s problems are exactly like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head; they seem OK. Think of them for a long time; they begin to ache. Hold it even longer; they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.”  It’s important to think of the challenges in your life, but even more important to ‘put them down’ at the end of every day before you go to sleep.”
-  C. Rutagengwa



“Two of the most fundamental human needs are the need for love and justice.  Love draws forth from each of us those qualities of character – compassion, trustworthiness, fair-mindedness, generosity, courage – which make for a meaningful life and empower us to contribute to the emergence of peaceful societies.  Justice involves the wisdom to apply this force of love strategically – using the tools of reward and punishment in harmony with that kind of moral education which refines the heart’s attraction to excellence of character and service. That so many human beings are deprived of these essential prerequisites for healthy development and thus fail to manifest noble human capacities is one of the great tragedies of our age.”

-Baha’i Association of Mental Health Professional

Monday, 14 December 2015

‘Giving is Living’ Questions


 


Is there a time when one should not give?

How is it to give to yourself?

What do the different faces of ‘giving’ look like?

How would the world be if everyone gave?

How would the world be if no one gave?

What does it take to become a cheerful giver?

Can we give what we don’t have?

What would giving out of fear or obligation look like?

What would giving out of love look like?

What is it to give without judgment or reason?

Can we give so much that it becomes addictive?

Is it in the nature of our souls to give?

Does true service need to be sacrificial?

Is the greatest poverty the inability to give?

Is it more valuable to give to those lacking the means for repaying us?

Why should we give?

What is sacrificial giving?

What are your thoughts about giving out of habit rather than conscious giving?

Is giving more worthy if it’s done in secret?

Do we all have the gift of giving?


Should we stop giving if our motives are wrong?

Giving is Living!



Giving is Living




“Listen, O drop, give yourself up without regret, and in exchange gain the Ocean.”
-Rumi


“To give and to be generous are attributes of Mine; well is it with him that adorneth himself with My virtues.”
– Baha’u’llah

“You often say ; I would give , but only to the deserving,
The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pasture. 
Surely he who is worthy to receive his days and nights is worthy of all else from you.
And he who has deserved to drink from the ocean of life deserves to fill his cup from your little stream.
See first that you yourself deserve to be a giver, and an instrument of giving.
For in truth it is life that gives unto life-while you,
who deem yourself a giver is but a witness.”
– K. Gibran



“It's not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
– Mother Teresa



“Man’s merit lieth in service and virtue and not in the pageantry of wealth and riches. Take heed that your words be purged from idle fancies and worldly desires and your deeds be cleansed from craftiness and suspicion”
-Baha’u’llah



“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
- Lao Tzu


“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”
– W. Churchill



“And the honor and distinction of the individual consist in this, that he among all the world’s multitudes should become a source of social good. Is any larger bounty conceivable than this, that an individual, looking within himself, should find that by the confirming grace of God he has become the cause of peace and well-being, of happiness and advantage to his fellow men.”
-Abdu’l-Baha



“Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love,
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
And where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand,
to be loved, as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive,
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.”
-Francis of Assisi




“You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
– K. Gibran




“We must be like the fountain or spring that is continually emptying itself of all that it has and is continually being refilled from an invisible source. To be continually giving out for the good of our fellows undeterred by fear of poverty and reliant on the unfailing bounty of the Source of all wealth and all good—this is the secret of right living.”
-Shoghi Effendi



“Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take with you nothing that have received--only what you have given.”
-Francis of Assisi



“Generosity is the most natural outward expression of an inner attitude of compassion and loving-kindness.”
-Dalai Lama



“As desire abates, generosity is born. When we are connected and present, what else is there to do but give?”
-Jack Kornfield



“Be generous in prosperity, and thankful in adversity. Be worthy of the trust of thy neighbor, and look upon him with a bright and friendly face. Be a treasure to the poor, an admonisher to the rich, an answerer to the cry of the needy, a preserver of the sanctity of thy pledge. Be fair in thy judgment, and guarded in thy speech. Be unjust to no man, and show all meekness to all men. Be as a lamp unto them that walk in darkness, a joy to the sorrowful, a sea for the thirsty, a haven for the distressed, an upholder and defender of the victim of oppression. Let integrity and uprightness distinguish all thine acts.”
-Baha’u’llah



“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
-Matthew 6:25-34”



“Be a home for the stranger, a balm to the suffering, a tower of strength for the fugitive. Be eyes to the blind, and a guiding light unto the feet of the erring. Be an ornament to the countenance of truth, a crown to the brow of fidelity, a pillar of the temple of righteousness, a breath of life to the body of mankind, an ensign of the hosts of justice, a luminary above the horizon of virtue, a dew to the soil of the human heart, an ark on the ocean of knowledge, a sun in the heaven of bounty, a gem on the diadem of wisdom, a shining light in the firmament of thy generation, a fruit upon the tree of humility.”
-Baha’u’llah





“Give a bowl of rice to a man and you will feed him for a day. Teach him how to grow his own rice and you will save his life.”
-Confucius



“I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it for I shall not pass this way again.”
-Quaker saying



“Be anxiously concerned with the needs of the age ye live in, and center your deliberations on its exigencies and requirements.”
-Baha’u’llah


“All you have shall some day be given; Therefore give now, that the season of giving may be yours and not your inheritors'.”
-K. Gibran



“Happiness never decreased by being shared.”
-Buddha



“The purpose of human life is to work for the betterment of the world.”
-Baha’u’llah


“I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitts on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.”
-Maya Angelou


“As His divine power has given unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him that has called us to glory and virtue: ...giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; to virtue knowledge; to knowledge temperance; to temperance patience; to patience godliness; to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.”
-Psalms 41:1



“Now is the time to cheer and refresh the down-cast through the invigorating breeze of love and fellowship, and the living waters of friendliness and charity."
-Baha’u’llah



A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion 
are the things which renew humanity.”
-Buddha

He that hath a bountiful eye shall be blessed; 
for he giveth of his bread to the poor.”
-Proverbs 22:9


“Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, 
and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned.”
-Timothy 1:5

“BEHOLD, God enjoins justice, and the doing of good, and generosity towards [one's] fellow-men.”
-Quran


"Forget thou entirely the ease, tranquility, composure and living of this transitory world and occupy thyself with the well-being and service of the human world and conduct thyself in accord with the advices and exhortations of God."
-Abdu'l-Baha


“Gentleness, self-sacrifice and generosity are the exclusive possessions of no one race or religion.”
-Gandhi


“Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.”
-The Bible


“Tend the sick, raise the fallen, care for the poor and needy, give shelter to the destitute, protect the oppressed, comfort the sorrowful and love the world of humanity with all your hearts, then I say unto you that ere long this meeting-place will see a wonderful harvest.”
-Abdu’l-Baha


“Before death takes away what you are given, give away what there is to give.”
-Rumi



“It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding.”
-K. Gibran



“To whom much has been given, much more will be expected.”
-The Bible



“The ground submits to the sky and suffers whatever comes.  Tell me, is the Earth worse for giving in like that?”
-Rumi


“Therefore strive that your actions day by day may be beautiful prayers. Turn towards God, and seek always to do that which is right and noble. Enrich the poor, raise the fallen, comfort the sorrowful, bring healing to the sick, reassure the fearful, rescue the oppressed, bring hope to the hopeless, shelter the destitute!”
- Abdu'l-Baha


“Silence the angry man with love. Silence the ill-natured man with kindness. Silence the miser with generosity. Silence the liar with truth.”
- Buddha


“I am yours.  Don’t give myself back to me.”
-Rumi


"Be thou loving to every afflicted one, a dispeller of sorrows to every grieved one, a refuge to every fearful one, a heavenly food to every destitute one, a balm to every wounded one, a consolation to dejected hearts, a blessing to unfortunate souls, a treasure to every begging one and a succor to every lamenting one -- so that thou mayest be a banner of guidance and the essence of piety among the maid-servants of thy Supreme Lord."
-Abdu'l-Baha,